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To race or not to race?

OK so steph said I should do a post on our poor sports at the Pine wood derby. I have been so bothered by this that I think it is a good idea to just voice it. As you all know we are seriously into racing it is just deep in our blood. So when stetson joined boy scouts last year we learned everything we needed to know to produce a fast race car. Isn't that what every parent and their scout does. work hard on your car and take it to win. Whats the point of the derby if you don't try to win. I know you can't always win and learning that is good for kids. But don't you at least try? Well last year we took the car not knowing what to expect I was so worried that Stetson wouldn't win and would be heart broken I had the speech all prepared for afterward. But ... that thing was dirty fast and I mean dirty fast. no one could believe how that thing..I couldn't believe that thing! So as the year passed and we all forgot (OR SO i THOUGHT) life moved past the derby. Then as the new year came and went so did another derby approach. Stetson grew excited as it got closer and I took the exact same knowledge that I had and we helped stetson create another derby car.
So on derby night we again worried and I told stetson that if he didn't win it was ok. He was especially worried because all week the boys at school in our ward were harassing him and saying that they were gonna kick his butt this year. It was relentless all week long. everyday he would come home from school with things the boys had said. so I told him that he did his best and that no matter what it was ok whatever happened. Little did I know what we were in for. The parents were awful I don't want to go into a lot of detail but I felt like we were stoned. Stetson was threatened that if he won again he would lose friends and they tried to cheat him out of a race saying he had lost one and shouldn't be where he was. I fought that and then saying that where his car came of the track because the track had a bolt sticking up he should lose that race. We also fought that. It was incredible the way the people acted. Stetson did win first place again and I was so proud of him. he was ecstatic.
As we left stetson said mom I hope none of my friends will be mean and not be my friends anymore. I told him he should never feel bad about winning he should be very proud of himself and if someone wasn't his friend because he won them at something then he doesn't want those type of people for friends anyways. I was so mad about the whole thing.
So my dilemma do We:
1. Buy stetson out and not do the derby next year and take him to do something else fun.
2. Fix stetson's car so that he will lose to appease all the jealous sorry losers.
or
3. Take what we know and make the exact same car as we did the first year and this year and go to the derby and try to win. And to heck with the rest of them. If they can't take it then that's their fault.
That's what I think we should do. I don't want to teach stetson that you should not excel at something if it hurts others feelings. If it was baseball would he strike out because his friend did and he doesn't want him to get his feelings hurt? Their will be things some of his friends will be better at than him and vice versa. But is it worth all the drama of the people who would like to stone us out of the neighborhood and call us cheaters because we won the derby...
What your opinion. Put yourself in the situation and answer honestly.